You’ve decided to divorce after a long and difficult conversation with your spouse. Now what?
If you can still talk to each other, things will be much simpler. So try to avoid anything that could escalate the situation to a point where communication becomes a real challenge.
Here are some things to consider:
Neither of you intended it to turn out this way
Pointing fingers and blaming each other for the breakdown of your marriage is pointless. Life happens, and divorce is common. What you need to do is find a way to move on as efficiently as possible. The more you can agree on things, the less time you will spend in court.
This is not just about you
If you want to start a war with each other, be prepared to hurt a lot of other people. If you have children together, they will suffer from your disagreements. Friends, family and work colleagues could all be drawn into it too. Divorces can wreck entire social circles when others feel obliged to pin their allegiance to one flag of the other, so for the sake of everyone, try to keep things civil.
You only have so many resources
The more time you spend fighting over little details, the less time you will have for other things such as relaxing or attending to your children. The longer you drag out your divorce, the more it will cost you, and you could almost certainly come up with better ways to use that money.
Divorce might not be easy, but it does not need to be overly difficult either. With the right legal help and the right attitude, you end your marriage efficiently and move on sooner.